Gap between knowing and doingApr 21, 2019
Most of the time, we all know what to do to make us feel better, right? Like have a regular meditation, breath or stretch routine, but many of us don't follow through. Or how about all the New Year resolutions with good intentions that stop after a few weeks or months!!
Why is that and how can we close this GAP??
What we want or who we want to be, is different from who we are right now. We get inspired about our future-self, but our present-self doesn't like change and is on auto-pilot.
Here are a few things that have helped me.
1. Identify what you want to change and how you will get there. Create a plan! Know yourself. I am not a evening person, so when I schedule myself to do hard tasks in the evenings, I am setting myself up for failure.
2. Add one thing at a time. Go slow!! For many of us, it takes time to close the gap between the present and the future self. When I first started doing breath work, I set goal of breathing 45 minutes a day, and couldn't keep up with it after a few weeks. Always feeling discouraged and down on myself. Then went to 3 minutes a day for couple of weeks and added a few extra minutes on days I had more time and slowly worked my way up. Creating a new habit takes time and patience. Just be aware of what works for you and be ok with that.
3. Identify a crystal clear goal and find ways to stay motivated. For example, how do I want to feel after 1 month? 6 months? Flexible? Peaceful? Keep pictures of how you want to feel on your fridge as a reminder to keep you going on the days you don't want to. Get accountability partner or someone that will keep you on track. Get clear on the WHY???